Bare facts

While listening to a  You Tube video by Prof. Dr. Bonelli, one sentence in particular stuck to my mind.  That wives often do not like to show themselves naked to their husbands. This sentence, based on the professional experience of the Viennese psychiatrist, made me think. Although he mentioned this fact in a slightly different context from the one that I am about to spin.

The naked body of a woman has a clearly different impact on a man than that of a naked male body on a woman. I think you can say this in a general way and it is a truism. And I'm sure women are aware of this.

If a wife does not like to show herself naked to her husband, there can be more than one reason. It may be because she doesn't really like her own body, comparing it to the illusionary glossy photos in magazines or catalogues. Or it could be because her husband is not able to create a space for her where she feels safe and accepted as she is. It takes courage to speak openly about this subject. Because it touches our most vulnerable feelings. If we find the courage and dare to talk about our insecurities and fears, this conversation often leads to a great release and to a new quality of intimate bonding.

I remember a boyfriend of mine who liked to move around in his apartment in the summer in his birthday suit. And he told me more or less frankly  that he expected me to do the same.  I replied that this permanent nakedness would be the end of all eroticism for me. We never talked about this topic again. Another acquaintance, who indulged in the same hobby, then said that nudity was not about eroticism, but about naturalness. We agreed to disagree. A couple of friends, she an American, and he a devout Muslim from Pakistan, also follow the inhouse nudity culture while they spend the summer in their second residence here in the Algarve. You live and learn.

For women, eroticism is often paramount. The inspiring play between female and male energy. And this game has a lot to do with fantasy. The decoratively veiled body, the look in the eyes, the deliberately chosen words, the silence at the right moment, the energy of body language, the magic of unwrapping  etc. etc. The awareness that both play their part in a script that they have created themselves tends to result in a highly erotic experience for all involved. Yin meets Yang, and both together form a perfect entity.

In my opinion, all these subtle details would not be equally effective in the presence of complete nudity.  In a partnership on eye level it is often us, the women, who write the script. The man sets the theme and his partner devotes herself to the details with love. What more could he wish for?

© Solandra (April 18th, 2020)

Translated with the help of DeepL

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